Ease the need to control
What could the other person do if I stepped back?
From judgment to practice.
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Notice the wish to be understood
What does the other person want me to understand?
Clarify your part
Regardless of their response, what is mine to do?
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ARISTOTLE
Am I using ‘following the flow’ to avoid necessary practice, or using ‘keeping the habit’ to ignore a reality that has changed?
LAOZI
Am I using ‘following the flow’ to avoid necessary practice, or using ‘keeping the habit’ to ignore a reality that has changed?
BERTRAND RUSSELL
Have I mortgaged too much of my happiness to too few outcomes?
MARCUS AURELIUS
Am I waiting for circumstances to change before I can be calm, or returning now to the principle that can put my judgment back in order?
LUCIUS ANNAEUS SENECA
Am I preparing for a risk, or have I already treated an unrealized outcome and its meaning as certain and begun to suffer?
EPICTETUS
Am I preparing for a risk, or have I already treated an unrealized outcome and its meaning as certain and begun to suffer?
BOETHIUS
Have I entrusted my peace to a condition that disappears when Fortune changes, or to a standard I can still choose to uphold today?
JEONG YAK-YONG
Is the small advantage I am trying to gain now eroding the trust needed to do something greater together later?
ADAM SMITH
Do I see the other person only as someone calculating interests, or also as someone who wants recognition and understanding?
MICHEL DE MONTAIGNE
Am I satisfied that I delivered the message, or am I checking what understanding it actually created?
PLATO
Am I giving people more answers, or helping them turn their attention toward what matters most?
CONFUCIUS
Am I rushing toward an answer to hide what I do not know, or making the boundary of my knowledge clear so I can judge more accurately?
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